If You're in My Office, It's Already Too Late: A Divorce Lawyer's Guide to Staying Together

If You're in My Office, It's Already Too Late: A Divorce Lawyer's Guide to Staying Together

Hard-hitting divorce lawyer James Sexton shares his insights and wisdom from the front lines of divorce to keep you out of his office and improve your relationship.

If You're in My Office, It's Already Too Late. James Sexton knows this. After dealing with more than a thousand clients whose marriages have dissolved over everything from an ill-advised threesome with the nanny to the uneven division of carpool duties, he also knows all of the what-not-to-dos for couples who want to build--and consistently work to preserve--a lasting, fulfilling relationship. Described by former clients as a "courtroom gunslinger" and "the sociopath you want on your side," Sexton tells the unvarnished truth about relationships, diving straight into the most common marital problems. These usually derive from dishonest--or nonexistent--communication. Even when the alleged reason for separation is one spouse's new "personal trainer," there's likely a communication problem that predates the fitness kick. Symptom and root cause get confused all the time.

Sexton has spent his career working with spouses-to-be-no-longer. Reverse engineering a relationship can help to identify and fix what does not work. Ever feel like you're holding back criticism of your spouse because you just can't have that fight right now? Sexton will tell you to "Hit Send Now." Maybe you aren't as adventurous as you used to be, or need some "you time," but for some reason it seems weird or exhausting to change up the routine now. Sexton knows where that mentality leads and offers viable alternative paths to take. Though he deals constantly with the heartbreak of others, he still believes in romance and the transformative power of love. This book is his opportunity to use what he has learned to help couples that aren't so far gone get back on track.

Title:If You're in My Office, It's Already Too Late: A Divorce Lawyer's Guide to Staying Together
ISBN:9781250130778
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About James J. Sexton

James J. Sexton, Esq. is a divorce lawyer. He wakes up every day at 4:00am. He lives in Manhattan.


    If You're in My Office, It's Already Too Late: A Divorce Lawyer's Guide to Staying Together Reviews

  • Janelle

    Well, this was a terrifying read. I can see why the author says he doesn't get invited to cocktail parties. (He does, however, point out that he still gets invited to weddings. So there's that.)James ...

  • Carin

    Come for the entertaining stories about divorcing partners, stay for the simple, practical advice for staying together and working things out.James is a divorce lawyer in New York City. He's one of th...

  • Danielle

    This is a how-not-to book, not a how-to. I liked his frank tone, common sense reminders, and juicy stories of bad behavior ;)...

  • Laurie

    Fantastic. Everyone interested in keeping their relationship together should read this book. Well written, entertaining and smart. And witty as hell....

  • Amanda

    I received a copy of this book from a Goodreads giveaway. I liked that this book had a very different perspective than most marriage advice books. The stories were funny and there was some interesting...

  • Jill Vogel Kinison

    this book is a must read for anyone considering marriage, about to get married or even already married. the cases he shares offer brevity and a reality check to where you might be in your relationship...

  • Britt

    4.5 stars. Being a pragmatic person (for the most part) I found this book insightful and helpful, especially if you are invested in your relationship and as James poses make it thrive: "... marriage i...

  • Sarah

    Okay, so I was a little embarrassed at first to admit that I was reading a relationship self-help book. But hey, research, right? The biggest commitment of my life so far is way too important to me to...

  • Andrienne

    I feel jaded about relationship books, but this one is oh so refreshing. It cracked me up, and not the slapstick sort at that. The author truly knows his stuff. I’ve worked with lawyers so I know wh...

  • Mo Shah

    Amusing, in the way schadenfraude is amusing. ...